![]() ![]() What happens is that it might take a man much longer to get to that point and in that space it may feel like he fears commitment. Remember I said that women bond to man as a result of those chemicals like oxytocin? They’re looking for that security and/or commitment and reach that point much sooner than men. J.A.: One of the differences is that women tend to get to the destination much sooner than men do. What makes it seem like men fear commitment? Men are simple, but if their lives are complicated, they’re going to be complicated. In that there might be different layers and facets in where they’re at in their lives, based on their profession, what might be going on with past relationships? Look at a person’s lifestyle. J.A.: I used to say men are very simple, but the reality is, that our lives might be complicated. If there was one thing you would like women to truly understand about men, what would that be? To really trigger a man’s brain, ask him a thinking question rather than a feeling or emotional question or vice versa. Women have a tendency to give a lot more information, especially from an emotional or experiential perspective, where men tend to be more logical. His response is, “That’s great.” That’s one dynamic that I see happening. I notice a habit that when a men sends a text: “How’re you doing?” a woman might write back a novel, sharing her entire day, in volumes of information. I will take a particular thing that I see so often in my coaching practice. J.A.: This can be an interview in and of itself. Can he fit into your life instead of trying to mold yourself into his? How Men and Women Communicate Differently What are the communication styles that women and men use that sometimes require an interpreter, or what I call “the universal translator”? I said in a Facebook post “Know your audience.” Where are they coming from in their lives? Know what you want in relationship and know your audience. The differences might be where they are socially and economically: are they going through a divorce? Men might be dealing with the financial aspects of that, which could be alimony and child support, and women might be raising children.įundamentally, we all want love. Men want love just as much as women and we really want relationship as much as women do. One of the issues that come up for most of the women I coach who are dating men over 35, and my “sweet spot” might be women dating men between 40-55 there’s a whole different dynamic going on. It’s difficult to generalize all men without looking at what stages they are in their lives. Then we have to take it into different stages. That’s one of the differences that happen in that age bracket. Men are driven by testosterone and the drive to make it out in the world. Chemicals such as oxytocin are released, and their desire for commitment and security happens. ![]() #ARE THEY GOING TO MAKE A BRAVE 2 FULL#We’re not in that place that is ready to take on full blown relationships and commitment, where women come from the place of once they have had sex with a man, they bond with him. I think in the early stages, for men 18-30, they’re just making their way in the world, and they are highly driven from a sexual perspective when it comes to women. Jonathon Aslay: Where do we begin? Let’s talk about the 25-year-old for the moment and what seems to happen in relationships. I have since gotten the sense that we are sometimes two distinct species. Can you explain your take on the similarities and differences of men and women? The Real Difference Between Men and Women I had always thought it was sexist to believe that men and women weren’t all that different until I was called on to raise my son solo since being widowed when he was 11. Throughout the interview, we laughed knowingly, both being “seasoned” in the relationship arena. Our conversation touches on many of the subjects in the book. He has the inside scoop on the male mind-because he has one-but carries with him the sensitivity and compassionate listening ability that is more culturally female. His book entitled The Relationships Men Commit to and Why is a guide to getting to know the other half of the human species. This media sensation is a confidant and guide to women world-wide. Jonathon Aslay is a relationships coach based in LA. An interview that takes us to the depths of unknown territory: into the male mind, to find out what romantic relationships they really want. ![]()
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